Romance -
Me Tarzan, You Jane
Do you know who is driving the car in your romantic
relationship?
Ugh. That was pretty nasty, wasn't it? Perhaps every word that Betty said to Jarod was true. Nonetheless, how cooperative do you think Jarod is going to be with Betty? His first reaction is going to be to defend himself after the 'attack'.
That's generally accomplished by tossing something from the 'attacker's' past into their face, as they have yours. It's a normal and natural human response. Betty may feel better now that she's gotten the load off her chest, but how effective were her words to Jarod? Not very.
Betty may have envisioned Jarod responding something akin to, "Betty, my darling angel! Forgive me for being an inconsiderate idiot! I don't deserve you! I'll change overnight – I promise, my love! Now where's that orange scouring pad, so I can do the dishes?"
Let's take a look at how Betty could have handled the situation to achieve a positive response from Jarod.
"Jarod, I would really enjoy spending more time with you in the evenings. I miss you during the day while we are apart. I have a few suggestions that might help us spend more time together in the evening."
By changing the word "you" into "I", Betty now has Jarod eating out of the palm of her hand. "I" is a smaller word, but eons more powerful! Jarod was prepared for Betty's 'regular' lecture, and was pleasantly surprised. Though he may not like her suggestions, at least he's listening. Betty has his undivided attention.
In fact, although Betty eluded personal respect towards Jarod, she may have been silently thinking, "Jarod (you moron), I would really enjoy spending more time (taking a relaxing bubble bath in complete solitude) with you in the evenings. I miss you (about as much as your mother misses that wart that the doctor removed from her chin) during the day while we are apart. I have a few suggestions (that you'd better listen to) that might help us spend more time together in the evening."
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